Signs of a cheating spouse

Signs to help determine if your spouse is cheating on you.

Before you start out with anything, I recommend you read these signs of a cheating spouse. Why? Because any lover/spouse who has been in a marriage or serious relationship will be able to catch them cheating simply by watching out for the obvious signs of a cheater. If not catch, it will greatly help you learn the truth on whether or not your spouse is cheating on you with another man or woman.

The first thing in a relationship that can go wrong and may lead you to believe your spouse is having infidelity/adultery problems is that there will be a void, or lack of quality time in your everyday life. You may notice you talk less, you go out together less, rarely or never do you get any intimate time with your spouse. By intimate time, this could mean you do not have those talks you used to have, or you feel that your spouse has no more desire or willingness to be with you physically. There is almost zero emotional support, and your spouse may have stopped complementing you for things you are proud of in your day to day lives.

A few more signs of a cheating spouse is when you realize that they are acting all cold and dead with you, but when a certain friend or co-worker is around, they are acting all excited, bubbly, feels like they are having fun or enjoying themselves more. A flirting husband or wife is something to watch out for, especially if your spouse flirts with the same person, and only with that person and less or not at all with anyone else. They may be having a secret affair or their "friend" relationship is developing into something else.

When regular everyday friendships develop into something more than "just friends" level, they are bound to have an affair. It's been happening ever since, and surveys and research shows that more than half of all emotional affairs develop even further to the point that they will, in time, have physical relationships.

To spot an emotional affair, you may notice that your spouse is talking to you about their problems less and less, and rarely "vents" anymore. They could be getting their emotional support from another close friend, and if that friend just so happens to be of the opposite sex, they may end up developing their relationship more to the point that your husband or wife will trust that person more than you. When that happens, you can be sure that physical cheating will soon follow.

Online affairs, where emotional affairs with strangers often happen, are the same basic thing as emotional affairs. It happens all the time, spouse feels left out, or starved of attention/emotional support, but also does not want to get involved with "real life" people so they resort to visiting chat rooms / message boards to get their need of emotional support. I'm not saying this is wrong, but when your spouse enters one of these chatrooms, and gets close enough to someone of the opposite sex, this could be dangerous to your relationship. Over a period of time their online friendship, which you could be absolutely have no knowledge of, move past the "friends" level and move on towards having an emotional affair. Sharing of intimate details, stuff that were meant for your ears only, will be told to this new person.

Meeting in real life will soon follow once attraction has built up between this new "friend" and your spouse. This is why it is very important to find these signs and catch your spouse before they cheat on you. A cheating spouse, when caught having secret emails and chats, will be more than likely to confess and ask forgiveness. Once they have started with the affair, and the other guy or girl your spouse is cheating on you with manages to convince her to leave you, it will be much harder as trust has been built between them, and taken away from you.

When or if you do decide to catch your cheating spouse, you will need to come to a very strict compromise on what to do with your relationship. Set solid boundaries when dealing with the opposite sex. There should be nothing but trust between both of you, and you should explain to your cheating spouse that you are willing to change, and she or he should too. There are no signs of a cheating husband or signs of a cheating wife greater than you FEELING something is wrong. Once you have confronted your cheating spouse, it is up to you to either work things out on your own, or see a marriage counselor.

To prevent affairs, you must be vigilant in watching signs of a cheating spouse. There is nothing you can do to change the fact that you were cheated on when it is already done and over. So if you found out too late, and she or he has already cheated on you with someone else, do not waste your precious time over it. Instead come to a decision.

You should give yourself two firm choices. Do I still love my cheating spouse? Or do I leave my spouse and let them suffer? Leaving them is the most you should do, do not ever try to hurt them back through physical means. If you want to hurt them, get a good divorce lawyer, sue your cheating spouse for as much as you can, then just plain ignore them. Do not get manipulated by their pleas, if you have made a decision to leave them, stick to it! If you want to fix or repair your broken marriage, then commit to that. There is no use changing your mind back and forth, as this will waste your time, and possibly your money.

Some signs of a cheating spouse you should watch out for are :

  1. They do not care about your relationship. Seemingly aloof, uncaring, cold, feels like he or she is in a bored mood everytime you are alone together.
  2. There is little to no emotional support between the two of you. You try to support your wife or husband, but it seems like they fall on deaf ears.
  3. You spouse is flirting with girls or guys, and when you confront them they ignore or shrug it off saying it was nothing. Flirting is a sign of attraction, and I'm sure you remember how your husband or wife flirted with you when you started dating.
  4. Getting touchy about conversations when it seems like you are steering it towards infidelity, adultery, or signs that he or she is cheating. They may be trying to avoid it, or are trying to change/derail your thoughts while they come up with an lie to something they could not explain.
  5. Cheating spouses will more often than not refuse to have intimate relations with their partners. A complete opposite is when out of nowhere, they want to try something vastly different in bed from what they used to, suddenly experimenting with sex.
  6. A cheating wife WILL shave her pubic hair. It's a well known fact, if your wife has not done this for a long time, then all of a sudden she starts going out with "friends" and then it just so happens by "coincidence" she starts shaving AND does not tell you until you find out on your own. This scenario could mean that she IS having an affair.
  7. A cheating husband will starts shaving his beard/body, start exercising, going to the gym, buying new perfumes etc. Anything to make him more appealing to the opposite sex. If this happens and he has no reason to give you, it is fair to assume that something is wrong.
  8. Some cheating husbands are caught by private investigators with the same sex. If your husband has a friend over, and seems to spend more and more time with this freind he may be cheating on you with another guy. Usually when guys hang out, it is 3 or more, and if not it won't usually last very long unless they are doing something such as fixing up a room/car/etc.
  9. You wife has been shopping for sexy lingerie, which you never see her wearing. It would be naive of you not to suspect anything. If you, her husband, never sees them, then who is?
  10. Cheating spouses often slip up after a while, when they get comfortable with the routine of cheating. Slip ups could be in form of leaving receipts of gifts for their new lovers, or bills from hotels/motels. Other examples would be finding freshly bought condoms/contraceptives even if you haven't had sex in quite a long time.

A good marriage or serious relationship is one where couples keep no secrets from each other. When you suspect that there are secrets or you notice any cheating signs, actively getting evidence may be an option. The methods on how to catch a cheating spouse will be posted soon, it will involve the use of keyloggers, cell phone spies, GPS tracking, and the services of a private investigator.

Cheating Spouse

Do I have a cheating spouse?

First, before reading anything else in this website, ask yourself why you are here. Is it because you think you have a cheating spouse? Or maybe because you already know you have a cheating spouse, and would like to find ways on getting rock solid evidence? If you're answer is because you THINK you have a cheating spouse, then you may already have the answer you are looking for. It is sad because most spouses that think their partner is cheating on them, are actually right.

When a husband or wife thinks their spouse is cheating on them, there is a very high chance that they are correct in their assumption. A spouse knows their partner more than anyone, and if you've been getting that familiar feeling that something is wrong with your relationship (especially if it has been going on for a few months), you have every reason to be here. Researching on behaviors, signs of a cheating spouse, and how to catch a cheating spouse is a very normal thing especially if there has been a shift in the recent months towards your spouse being very secretive or distant. Like giving you the cold shoulder, but still being nice. Deception is not something we want to relate with our significant other.

Do you still think your spouse is cheating on you? Make a list, preferably one you can keep private. A good choice for a private journal is to create your own blog. Blogger gives you this wonderful service for free and you can easily keep the details of your research on cheating spouses to yourself or anonymous. It is better to keep it to "Invitation only" because your spouse may see you listing down things or reading articles such as the ones found here teaching you how to spot a cheater, and how to catch a cheating spouse. This will hurt your sopuse deeply if they are innocent, or if they are indeed cheating on you then they will take counter measures. So private only blogs will be better for what you're going to do.

Cheating spouses are often always secretive and vague about what they do, who they are with, and why they are out so late. In your online private journal, be sure to mark down the things you notice that you consider out of the ordinary or not routine. For everything you list, try and get an answer from your spouse on why, what, or where he or she was at that time then list it on your journal. This will not only give you a clearer view of things, but it will help you when building a case against your cheating spouse.

As you read more from this website you will learn different ways on how to catch your cheating spouse, and also learn various tell tale signs of a cheating spouse. If you don't want to keep a private journal, you could also consider hiring someone to do all of this for you. You don't really need to use a journal, I just suggest this option for tracking and listing your cheating spouses activities because it is private, even if he sees the blog address he will not be able to view it unless he knows your password.

A private investigator is one of the more popular ways of catching a cheating spouse, for those of you who don't want to use anti cheating spouse software (usually keyloggers to get your husband or wife's password). When hiring a private investigator it is always important to do a background check via google. You want someone reputable, been around for a long time, no pending or unresolved cases. Cheating spose can sue your private investigator if he is inexperienced and does something illegal, which would result in you also being sued and may cost you further as you pursue him in court.

Both suggestions I will give here, using cheating spouse spy software, surveillance equiptment, and starting a private journal to keep your findings in, or hiring a professional private investigator will work for you. Both are effective at catching a cheating spouse, but I know most people can't afford private investigators (some even charge up to $150/hour) so I will go about and explain both ways for you to catch your cheating spouse.

Everything that you will find here will be based on our experience, books, and other people's experiences. We are not private investigators, we have just dealt with cheating spouses, and have been successful at it, and would like to help you catch your cheating spouse. I know what it feels like to be decieved by someone you love and trust. It is unbelievable, and may even force you into denial.

Being here is a positive step in your relationship, because there are two things that can happen, you will either find out that you were just wasting time on suspicions that are not real (and be extremely relieved), or that you were right all along and you are being lied to by your cheating husband or cheating wife.

One thing that won't happen when you choose to pursue and find out if you have a cheating spouse is you will never be stuck in that place you are now, filled with stress and anxiety, not knowing what to do or if you're being crazy. You will get your dignity back, and come out a better person once this is all over.

Here's a quiz from Oprah's website that will help you determine if you have a cheating spouse, it is titled "Is he cheating"

About the how to catch a cheating spouse blog

Hi and welcome to the how to catch a cheating spouse blog. This blog is dedicated to helping both husbands and wives to determine if their spouse is cheating, how to deal with infidelity, and eventually how to catch a cheating spouse. Infidelity is a problem that not only ruins relationships, it may also cause trauma and be the reason for lack of self-confidence and low self esteem.

Since you're reading this, you are probably having doubts that your wife or husband is unfaithful. Every spouse's worst nightmare is finding out they are in a relationship, or married to a cheating spouse.

Here you will find articles that will help you deal with your infidelity problems, and eventually overcome the pain and anxiety infidelity has brought upon you and your spouse. I know this subject is very touchy, so I understand if you wouldn't want to leave your real name when asking questions. I have enabled anonymous commenting for those who wish to ask questions related to how to catch a cheating spouse, or anything on the topic of cheating sposes. Leave you questions and I will try to get back to you with an answer as soon as I can.

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