How To Catch Cheating Spouses

How to Catch Cheating spouses

2010-04-06T04:33:00.000-07:00

If you aren't really sure yet if you have a cheating spouse, please take the time to read up on the signs of a cheating spouse here.

There are several ways on how to catch cheating spouses, and what we'll talk about here right now are cellphone spying devices. Cellphone spies are one of the cheapest and easiest ways for you to confirm your suspicions about your spouse. They are readily available, most are plug and play, and they can reveal valuable information to you in various forms, such as txt messages, or recorded phone calls of your "cheating" spouse.

Some cellfones even have the ability to act as a "bug", those things you see on TV that secret agents use to spy on the bad guys. We're that far along that technology lets us BUG people. Kinda scary but true, be sure to never use this on people other than your spouse, as you may end up getting sued for invasion of privacy. That's unlikely to happen if your husband or wife is cheating on you and caught you spying on him or her. They would probably more often than not get embarrassed and start making up excuses. I think we've all watched the Cheaters TV shows. We just never thought it could happen to us.

So how do you catch cheating spouses with your cellular phones? It's as easy as buying the software, for iphones and other phones that allow you to install programs, or using hardware for older cellphones that have a simcard and comes in setup. Meaning cell phones that don't let you install programs and such.

What's the better anti cheating device? They do the same things basically. The software to catch cheating spouses stores whatever messages the cellphone it is installed in has received, so even if it gets erased you'll still be able to read it. Some of the more expensive software even allows recording of phone calls. To catch cheating spouses using the hardware is a little more trickier. You'll first need to wait until your "cheating spouse" (if you have no proof yet, it's better to not treat them like they are cheating husbands / cheating wives) leaves their cellphone unattended, then you remove their simcard and simply insert the simcard into the hardware, or simcard reader and it copies the text messages that were received. Deleted or not deleted, it will all be saved in your hardware.

I'll try to post more ways on how to catch your cheating spouses when I have more time. Right now work is killing me. Don't forget, if you're researching about how to catch your cheating husband/wife, then that should be one of the biggest signs that you might have one. You know your spouse best, so you can easily tell if they are acting strangely.

Anonymous cheating spouse email

2010-02-22T18:37:00.000-08:00

So sorry for the delay, I have been extremely busy in real life and have almost zero time to myself, because of the kids and work. I will try to keep up with the emails/comments and making more blog posts. Anyway here is a letter and I would like to give my opinions on it. Feel free to share your opinions in the comment form, or send your own email. Emails, comments, everything is completely anonymous.

Email is sent by S.

i have a different situation, my husband doesn't go on business trips or go out with friends, no texting, emails. he has lost interest in our conversations sometimes cutting me off and ending thing abruptly but we do still have sex. He does complain about thing he says I always do. He’s had strange cell phone behavior lately, doesn’t answer his phone much in front of me and keeps it on silent. In November I started checking the phone log online and found he’d been calling a girl @ work who happens to be 17 yrs. old. I did confront him (which after reading the info on this site was a mistake) and he say she’s just a friend my husband 39. I myself am 47. as of January he is no longer employed there but the calls to her continue. I’ve asked him to stop calling her but he say I’m trying to stop him from talking to people and having friends. I’ve noticed he’s been shaving his body, buy a lot of new white t-shirts and listening to music he doesn’t usually listen
to. I know there is something wrong, I feel it in the pit of my stomach and I’m feeling trapped. We have 3 kids and I haven’t been able to find a job for 2 yrs. which I know financially has stressed our situation. If he hasn’t started cheating I feel he will soon. I feel like he’s looking for something. Please help. I feel like I’m drowning. There are day that I can’t function and can’t take care of my house or children. Please help me. I do love him very much and the thought of leaving him hurts so incredibly much but I don’t want to be made a fool of.
Thank you

I don't mean to be insincere and highlight your letter like an asignment, but the bolded parts are all signs of a cheating spouse. And the bolded part in color red, that is just not something he should do! He could end up in jail if he does anything with a minor!

If you already have all the evidence you need, decide what YOU want to do. Do you still wish to continue the relationship with your spouse? Or having a "cheating spouse" too much for you to take and you'd just like to divorce him and take the kids?

If you'd like to work things out and try to mend your relationship, then it's time to confront your spouse. Tell him what you know, and ask him why he keeps talking to some other girl, who is underaged, instead of you. For all you know, things could have already turned into an emotional affair because of the amount of time they talk to each other. Your spouse could be falling in love with this underaged girl, and then, like most emotional affairs, turn into a "hands on" physical affair. What will happen then if people found out? He'd go to jail because of that minor.

You should put your foot down and tell your spouse, whether or not he is cheating on you, that he needs to compromise. Ask him what's wrong and why he is acting that way and how you can change, and tell him how you want him to change. Since he is probably depressed because he has no job, he might try to blame things on you. Remember that even if your spouse cheats, there is always a reason. Sometimes not your fault, but it could also be. But if someone is really depressed, and they find something new that makes them happy (like his new friend) they may get tempted to do something they usually wouldn't do. You should remind him that you are his spouse, and you can talk about anything. And if you really are having troubles after talking about all your feelings, you can try marriage counseling.

On the other hand, if you want to END the relationship, don't confront him about it first unless you have all the evidence needed to divorce your cheating spouse. You should use cellphone spies and keyloggers to your advantage, as these are cheap little gadgets that you can install without them knowing it. If your spouse uses a car, you could also install a GPS tracking unit to monitor where he goes with your car.

Those are the things that I would do, and I really am sorry for the almost 1 month late reply, this is the only free time I have to give to this site. I wish you luck, and hope you and your spouse get to fix your relationship. Please let us know what you choose to do.

Signs of a cheating spouse

2009-03-11T00:01:00.000-07:00

Signs to help determine if your spouse is cheating on you.

Before you start out with anything, I recommend you read these signs of a cheating spouse. Why? Because any lover/spouse who has been in a marriage or serious relationship will be able to catch them cheating simply by watching out for the obvious signs of a cheater. If not catch, it will greatly help you learn the truth on whether or not your spouse is cheating on you with another man or woman.

The first thing in a relationship that can go wrong and may lead you to believe your spouse is having infidelity/adultery problems is that there will be a void, or lack of quality time in your everyday life. You may notice you talk less, you go out together less, rarely or never do you get any intimate time with your spouse. By intimate time, this could mean you do not have those talks you used to have, or you feel that your spouse has no more desire or willingness to be with you physically. There is almost zero emotional support, and your spouse may have stopped complementing you for things you are proud of in your day to day lives.

A few more signs of a cheating spouse is when you realize that they are acting all cold and dead with you, but when a certain friend or co-worker is around, they are acting all excited, bubbly, feels like they are having fun or enjoying themselves more. A flirting husband or wife is something to watch out for, especially if your spouse flirts with the same person, and only with that person and less or not at all with anyone else. They may be having a secret affair or their "friend" relationship is developing into something else.

When regular everyday friendships develop into something more than "just friends" level, they are bound to have an affair. It's been happening ever since, and surveys and research shows that more than half of all emotional affairs develop even further to the point that they will, in time, have physical relationships.

To spot an emotional affair, you may notice that your spouse is talking to you about their problems less and less, and rarely "vents" anymore. They could be getting their emotional support from another close friend, and if that friend just so happens to be of the opposite sex, they may end up developing their relationship more to the point that your husband or wife will trust that person more than you. When that happens, you can be sure that physical cheating will soon follow.

Online affairs, where emotional affairs with strangers often happen, are the same basic thing as emotional affairs. It happens all the time, spouse feels left out, or starved of attention/emotional support, but also does not want to get involved with "real life" people so they resort to visiting chat rooms / message boards to get their need of emotional support. I'm not saying this is wrong, but when your spouse enters one of these chatrooms, and gets close enough to someone of the opposite sex, this could be dangerous to your relationship. Over a period of time their online friendship, which you could be absolutely have no knowledge of, move past the "friends" level and move on towards having an emotional affair. Sharing of intimate details, stuff that were meant for your ears only, will be told to this new person.

Meeting in real life will soon follow once attraction has built up between this new "friend" and your spouse. This is why it is very important to find these signs and catch your spouse before they cheat on you. A cheating spouse, when caught having secret emails and chats, will be more than likely to confess and ask forgiveness. Once they have started with the affair, and the other guy or girl your spouse is cheating on you with manages to convince her to leave you, it will be much harder as trust has been built between them, and taken away from you.

When or if you do decide to catch your cheating spouse, you will need to come to a very strict compromise on what to do with your relationship. Set solid boundaries when dealing with the opposite sex. There should be nothing but trust between both of you, and you should explain to your cheating spouse that you are willing to change, and she or he should too. There are no signs of a cheating husband or signs of a cheating wife greater than you FEELING something is wrong. Once you have confronted your cheating spouse, it is up to you to either work things out on your own, or see a marriage counselor.

To prevent affairs, you must be vigilant in watching signs of a cheating spouse. There is nothing you can do to change the fact that you were cheated on when it is already done and over. So if you found out too late, and she or he has already cheated on you with someone else, do not waste your precious time over it. Instead come to a decision.

You should give yourself two firm choices. Do I still love my cheating spouse? Or do I leave my spouse and let them suffer? Leaving them is the most you should do, do not ever try to hurt them back through physical means. If you want to hurt them, get a good divorce lawyer, sue your cheating spouse for as much as you can, then just plain ignore them. Do not get manipulated by their pleas, if you have made a decision to leave them, stick to it! If you want to fix or repair your broken marriage, then commit to that. There is no use changing your mind back and forth, as this will waste your time, and possibly your money.

Some signs of a cheating spouse you should watch out for are :

They do not care about your relationship. Seemingly aloof, uncaring, cold, feels like he or she is in a bored mood everytime you are alone together.
There is little to no emotional support between the two of you. You try to support your wife or husband, but it seems like they fall on deaf ears.
You spouse is flirting with girls or guys, and when you confront them they ignore or shrug it off saying it was nothing. Flirting is a sign of attraction, and I'm sure you remember how your husband or wife flirted with you when you started dating.
Getting touchy about conversations when it seems like you are steering it towards infidelity, adultery, or signs that he or she is cheating. They may be trying to avoid it, or are trying to change/derail your thoughts while they come up with an lie to something they could not explain.
Cheating spouses will more often than not refuse to have intimate relations with their partners. A complete opposite is when out of nowhere, they want to try something vastly different in bed from what they used to, suddenly experimenting with sex.
A cheating wife WILL shave her pubic hair. It's a well known fact, if your wife has not done this for a long time, then all of a sudden she starts going out with "friends" and then it just so happens by "coincidence" she starts shaving AND does not tell you until you find out on your own. This scenario could mean that she IS having an affair.
A cheating husband will starts shaving his beard/body, start exercising, going to the gym, buying new perfumes etc. Anything to make him more appealing to the opposite sex. If this happens and he has no reason to give you, it is fair to assume that something is wrong.
Some cheating husbands are caught by private investigators with the same sex. If your husband has a friend over, and seems to spend more and more time with this freind he may be cheating on you with another guy. Usually when guys hang out, it is 3 or more, and if not it won't usually last very long unless they are doing something such as fixing up a room/car/etc.
You wife has been shopping for sexy lingerie, which you never see her wearing. It would be naive of you not to suspect anything. If you, her husband, never sees them, then who is?
Cheating spouses often slip up after a while, when they get comfortable with the routine of cheating. Slip ups could be in form of leaving receipts of gifts for their new lovers, or bills from hotels/motels. Other examples would be finding freshly bought condoms/contraceptives even if you haven't had sex in quite a long time.

A good marriage or serious relationship is one where couples keep no secrets from each other. When you suspect that there are secrets or you notice any cheating signs, actively getting evidence may be an option. The methods on how to catch a cheating spouse will be posted soon, it will involve the use of keyloggers, cell phone spies, GPS tracking, and the services of a private investigator.

Cheating Spouse

2009-03-04T04:14:00.000-08:00

Do I have a cheating spouse?

First, before reading anything else in this website, ask yourself why you are here. Is it because you think you have a cheating spouse? Or maybe because you already know you have a cheating spouse, and would like to find ways on getting rock solid evidence? If you're answer is because you THINK you have a cheating spouse, then you may already have the answer you are looking for. It is sad because most spouses that think their partner is cheating on them, are actually right.

When a husband or wife thinks their spouse is cheating on them, there is a very high chance that they are correct in their assumption. A spouse knows their partner more than anyone, and if you've been getting that familiar feeling that something is wrong with your relationship (especially if it has been going on for a few months), you have every reason to be here. Researching on behaviors, signs of a cheating spouse, and how to catch a cheating spouse is a very normal thing especially if there has been a shift in the recent months towards your spouse being very secretive or distant. Like giving you the cold shoulder, but still being nice. Deception is not something we want to relate with our significant other.

Do you still think your spouse is cheating on you? Make a list, preferably one you can keep private. A good choice for a private journal is to create your own blog. Blogger gives you this wonderful service for free and you can easily keep the details of your research on cheating spouses to yourself or anonymous. It is better to keep it to "Invitation only" because your spouse may see you listing down things or reading articles such as the ones found here teaching you how to spot a cheater, and how to catch a cheating spouse. This will hurt your sopuse deeply if they are innocent, or if they are indeed cheating on you then they will take counter measures. So private only blogs will be better for what you're going to do.

Cheating spouses are often always secretive and vague about what they do, who they are with, and why they are out so late. In your online private journal, be sure to mark down the things you notice that you consider out of the ordinary or not routine. For everything you list, try and get an answer from your spouse on why, what, or where he or she was at that time then list it on your journal. This will not only give you a clearer view of things, but it will help you when building a case against your cheating spouse.

As you read more from this website you will learn different ways on how to catch your cheating spouse, and also learn various tell tale signs of a cheating spouse. If you don't want to keep a private journal, you could also consider hiring someone to do all of this for you. You don't really need to use a journal, I just suggest this option for tracking and listing your cheating spouses activities because it is private, even if he sees the blog address he will not be able to view it unless he knows your password.

A private investigator is one of the more popular ways of catching a cheating spouse, for those of you who don't want to use anti cheating spouse software (usually keyloggers to get your husband or wife's password). When hiring a private investigator it is always important to do a background check via google. You want someone reputable, been around for a long time, no pending or unresolved cases. Cheating spose can sue your private investigator if he is inexperienced and does something illegal, which would result in you also being sued and may cost you further as you pursue him in court.

Both suggestions I will give here, using cheating spouse spy software, surveillance equiptment, and starting a private journal to keep your findings in, or hiring a professional private investigator will work for you. Both are effective at catching a cheating spouse, but I know most people can't afford private investigators (some even charge up to $150/hour) so I will go about and explain both ways for you to catch your cheating spouse.

Everything that you will find here will be based on our experience, books, and other people's experiences. We are not private investigators, we have just dealt with cheating spouses, and have been successful at it, and would like to help you catch your cheating spouse. I know what it feels like to be decieved by someone you love and trust. It is unbelievable, and may even force you into denial.

Being here is a positive step in your relationship, because there are two things that can happen, you will either find out that you were just wasting time on suspicions that are not real (and be extremely relieved), or that you were right all along and you are being lied to by your cheating husband or cheating wife.

One thing that won't happen when you choose to pursue and find out if you have a cheating spouse is you will never be stuck in that place you are now, filled with stress and anxiety, not knowing what to do or if you're being crazy. You will get your dignity back, and come out a better person once this is all over.

Here's a quiz from Oprah's website that will help you determine if you have a cheating spouse, it is titled "Is he cheating"

About the how to catch a cheating spouse blog

2009-03-04T03:59:00.000-08:00

Hi and welcome to the how to catch a cheating spouse blog. This blog is dedicated to helping both husbands and wives to determine if their spouse is cheating, how to deal with infidelity, and eventually how to catch a cheating spouse. Infidelity is a problem that not only ruins relationships, it may also cause trauma and be the reason for lack of self-confidence and low self esteem.

Since you're reading this, you are probably having doubts that your wife or husband is unfaithful. Every spouse's worst nightmare is finding out they are in a relationship, or married to a cheating spouse.

Here you will find articles that will help you deal with your infidelity problems, and eventually overcome the pain and anxiety infidelity has brought upon you and your spouse. I know this subject is very touchy, so I understand if you wouldn't want to leave your real name when asking questions. I have enabled anonymous commenting for those who wish to ask questions related to how to catch a cheating spouse, or anything on the topic of cheating sposes. Leave you questions and I will try to get back to you with an answer as soon as I can.

If you don't want people seeing your question/s, feel free to use the contact form. If you need help with installing a specific keylogger you bought, I'll gladly try to help you out with whatever it is you bought.

Contact Form

2009-03-03T04:10:00.000-08:00

If you have a question about cheating spouses that is too personal to ask in the comments section, feel free to use this contact form. Note that I have allowed anonymous comments to be made, and you need not worry about anyone knowing who you are or where you are coming from. Also, I reply faster when you contact me using comments. If you would like your comment not to be displayed, just say so in the comment.

If you want to submit an article that you would like to be added that is related to catching cheating spouses or signs of cheating sposes, even your own personal cheating stories and how you dealt with infidelity, I will gladly post them if they are appropriate for the site and are your own articles or have the permission to distribute them.

You will NEVER receive spam from me. I will not use your email address or send you anything you did not ask for, or sell your email address to any third party company. Also, I only respond to serious emails, any nonsense or inappropriate articles will be ignored.

When submitting your articles or cheating stories and experiences, please do not use the real names of your spouses/ex husbands/ ex wives.